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Self Confidence


One question that most of us want to be addressed - “How can we build Self Confidence?”

Self Confidence is one trait that every human wants as a major ingredient of their personality. 

Alas! None of us are born with it. But the good thing is it can be developed over time. For sure we need to have intense desire and patience to build Self Confidence.

But what is Self Confidence? An essential component of a human personality everybody is looking for. 

Let us simplify this essential component!

Self Confidence is a “Belief” in our own “Self” which gives us enough strength to walk upright even through the darkest hours of our life to achieve what we aim to.

“With realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.” Dalai Lama

Self Confidence is vital for all of us be it any context - Professional, Personal and Social.
This vital element becomes our identity only with enough efforts, time, dedication and mental strength.

Yes! Self Confidence need to be constructed.

Let us see 10 tools that if used in an efficient manner can facilitate building Self Confidence.

Self Confidence Tool 1: Believe in your own SELF

“You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them.”  Michael Jordan

Use this first tool to break your own myth of believing yourself the least. Truth is the only person you can believe completely and blindly is your own self. Reason being your innate self is one individual you know the best…in and out.

You are the best to know your limits. You know your strengths and weaknesses and you’ll never make the mistake of lying to your own self.

So the first thing is to strongly believe in your own self.
“I can do it”
“It’s possible”
“I want to get it and I’ll find out how to”

It is suggested to design few punch lines like the ones mentioned above and keep on repeating them to an extent that you feel they’ve become a part of you.

Yes! If you strongly believe in your own self it doesn’t matter even if the whole World doubts you.

Self Confidence Tool 2: Come up face to face with your FEARS

“Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing.”Theodore Roosevelt

Carrying the tool of Self Belief confront your fears. If you keep avoiding them they’ll keep chasing you and you’ll end up losing all your time and energy running away from what you fear.

Never fear from taking any step or getting into action. It is not our actions that defeat us rather our fears are responsible for our failures as they hold us back.

So use your next tool to kill your fear by doing what fears you the most. Don’t carry apprehensions about the outcomes. Even if you fail just remember, all failures bring the lessons of life with them.

Put in effort to enhance your fearless side. We all have it.

Your fearless side will make you learn to maintain eye contact and look straight, a key feature of Self Confidence.

The best victory you get is by defeating your own FEAR!

Self Confidence Tool 3: Break the cocoon of your comfort

Life gives you the best lessons by pulling you out of your comfort zone and pushing you through the hard times.

If you prefer to stay in your comfort zone life will never test you. The trials of life make you strong enough to face any situation at any stage – an essential ingredient for Self Confidence.

So if you consider yourself to be fortunate enough living a comfy life you are wrong. Come out, call for challenges and try tougher things in life and see how bold and confident you’ll start feeling from inside.

Coming out of your comfort zone and defeating your fears go hand in hand

Self Confidence Tool 4: Don’t worry about other’s opinion

Self Confidence - What Other's Think😉

“Why should I care what other people think of me? I am who I am. And who I wanna be.”  Avril Lavigne

“What will others think of me?”
“What if others don’t like me or my idea?”
“How will others judge me?”

If such thoughts haunt you, believe me you will never be able to trust yourself and the first tool for building Self Confidence is - Believe in your own dreams, goals, thoughts and action. If you worry too much about other people’s opinion you’ll never be able to become fearless and walk straight.

Remember it doesn’t take much to become a critique. Criticism is one easy job that most of the people do. Best is to ignore the opinion of others and give no importance to their judgment.

 You didn’t call for it then why worry if opinions come uninvited!

On occasions, also be thankful to your critiques who continuously assault your Self Confidence as they are very well aware of your potential, even more than you. Criticism shows you have it in you and you are better than others.

The more you are criticized the more confident you should feel about yourself

Self Confidence Tool 5: Challenge your Limits

“Have confidence that if you have done a little thing well, you can do a bigger thing well too.” David Storey

Becoming fearless and coming out of your comfort zone will help you use the other tool efficiently which says never define a limit to your potential.

Set targets and achieve them not to prove it to anyone else but to yourself.  Place your goals higher every time you achieve them.

You’ll be able to tell yourself you are capable of doing what you intend to do.

 A self awareness about your own potential will give you strength to identify and set your goals in life and achieve them with your own efforts – One strength that all Self Confident people have in them.

Prove it to yourself and don’t wait for other people’s compliments on your achievements you’ll never get it rather you’ll die from criticism!

Self Confidence Tool 6: Carry the right mental attitude

Self Confidence  - Right Mental Attitude

“A strong positive mental attitude will create more miracles than any wonder drug.”
Patricia Neal

In order to generate room for Self Confidence be ready to give up all sorts of negative thinking.

Don’t let mental blocks control you. 

Face the fear and doubts generated by mental blocks.

If you have the right mental attitude nothing can stop you from achieving what you intend to. At the same time if you have a wrong attitude nothing can help you.

Various negative feelings like “I can’t”, “it’s not meant for me”, “it’ll not happen to me” and many more similar to these just make you feel bad and do no good to you.

Transform your mental block into building blocks and move on!

Self Confidence Tool 7: Stop Comparing and Copying

Self Confidence - Be your own Self

“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.” Bruce Lee

Yes! This is the tool of being who you are.

We are surrounded by billions of people in this world. If you compare yourself with others you’ll always bump into somebody who is better than you. This will always kill your Self Confidence.

Best comparison that will boost your Self Confidence is to assess who you are today in comparison to what you were yesterday. A positive response will certainly enhance your confidence.

Similar to this is the mistake of copying others who you erroneously judge as superior to you.

Never try to become somebody who you are not. 

In the chase of following someone else and trying to become like some other person you’ll lose your own self.

Don’t copy Be Your Own BRAND!

We are all born unique and identifying that exclusive element in us will enhance your Self Confidence.

Be your own FAN – Love yourself, Trust yourself and Follow yourself!

Self Confidence Tool 8: Look for Opportunities

 “If you choke your potential before it has an opportunity to become a possibility you will never reach your destiny.” Mo Stegall

Looking for opportunities will introduce you to new challenges and give you scope to prove yourself. 

Search for a breakthrough and see if you get a chance to lead, to meet a new person, to introduce yourself, to make a presentation and to sit in the front row.

Never miss a chance to take up responsibilities, as fulfilling responsibilities will always associate your name with the success achieved. 

The senses of achievement generated a result of taking up and executing the responsibilities leads to – An intense feeling of empowerment. Yes! I did it.

Empower yourself to feel Confident.

Exploring new opportunities will also shatter the obstacle of shyness and hesitation within you and will make you habitual to risk taking – An essential element of Self Confidence.

New opportunities will always give you a chance to test and raise your potential. Hesitating to do the same on the other hand will limit and kill your Self Confidence

Self Confidence Tool 9: Do not delay actions by planning for too long

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds courage and confidence. If you want to conquer fear do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” Dale Carnegie

It’s always good to plan and get into action. But by planning for too long you might miss the chance to act and achieve what you intend to. Proper planning is always time bound. 

So do not miss the bus by putting in all your time and energy into planning.

There are times when people plan for too long as they fear the outcomes. This again either delays action or leads to no action at all. 

Be courageous to take risk and fear not.

Plan and set small targets, achieve them, feel empowered and set harder goals for future.

Do plan but do not halt!

Self Confidence Tool 10: Take Charge of Yourself

“Control Your Own Destiny or Someone Else Will.”  Jack Welch

Get into a self help mode by first of all taking your own decisions. 

It is good to take suggestions from others but do not take your decisions from others.

Have faith in your own decisions and actions.

If you succeed the credit goes to you and if you fail the lesson will also be learnt by you. 

The success achieved through your own decisions will generate a feeling of being competent which will make you confident enough to take your own decisions in future as well.

But be loyal to yourself and never hold others responsible for your failure if the decision was your own.

Decisions taken by others for you will always have an element of doubt in them. But decisions taken by you will be sure shot as they will be your own. You know yourself better than anyone else.

The more you trust your decisions the less you need others to approve them.

Become the King of your own life!

So all the Self Confidence seekers let us conclude:

“Its confidence in our bodies, mind and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures.” Oprah Winfrey

If you need to generate Self Confidence it starts with a strong belief in your own self - be it your decisions, actions and relations. It calls for moving out from your comfort zone and getting rid from your fears. Try and test your own self and confront the fearless side of you. You’ll love this courageous person in you. Just be yourself. Don’t try to become someone who you are not.   

Take charge of your own life, look for opportunities, take your own decisions and get into action. Carrying the right mental attitude and freeing yourself from all negative thoughts will make the task easier. 

Doubts related to the outcomes and apprehensions related to other people’s opinion will assault your confidence.

Self Confident people are like strong trees - deeply rooted and standing straight in all seasons. Don’t become creepers they are too tender to survive!

Keertika Sharma Personali Progressio

Keertika Sharma

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